Rediscover Your Capacity to Want
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This past Father’s Day, I was up earlier than I wanted to be, in a place where I didn’t really want to be, for a man I was not happy with—my father.  Well, "not happy" is an understatement.  I was standing in the back of a church, in the presence of God, wanting to strangle my dad.  I love him, but we are trapped in a communication model that we developed about 30 years ago.  He talks—lectures is more like it—I listen.  That day was no exception.

I thought, “If I want to strangle him, why am I here?”  I was torn between my commitment to being a good and loving daughter and being true to myself.  There seemed to be no way to have both.  

So, I called on my training and experience in transforming seemingly impossible situations.  I asked myself, “What would I say to a Customized Explorations client in a similar fit of frustration?”  I knew immediately that I would ask, “What do you really want, right now?”  And, holy cow—the rock and the hard place disappeared!  Because what I wanted was simply to be heard.  And, I could ask him for that.  I made the request, knowing he could say yes, no or offer another option.  It was uncomfortable for us both at first, but in an instant we had a new way to communicate, and I found myself actually having an adult-to-adult interaction with my dad.  Just like that, peace was restored—all from me getting clear about what I wanted.

In the coming month, I invite you to

, in any and all areas of your life, by simply exploring the question of what you want.  Go beyond what you think you can have, because you can’t have what you don’t think about.  And if you want to make the game even more interesting, explore what you are

as well.  

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Happy Journaling,

Eve

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